Stick it in your mouth

July 21, 2009

Are you stuck with the desire to eat and eat? Do you find yourself eating too many bad things, and not enough good things? Do you eat good things, until you have a bad day, and then all your good work is out the window?

This is more common that you think, and if you have difficulty shifting this behaviour, it might be because of the conditioning you received as you grew up.

How often do you see a baby that begins to cry be soothed or ‘pacified’ by a bottle or dummy? You know from your own experience that when that baby cries, most likely it’s after food and food is presented soon afterwards.

A little later in life, say about the age of 2 or 3, what I like to call the ‘food battles’ start. Things like brussle sprouts are refused, things like lollies, cookies and other sweets are coveted. Most parents I’ve seen or heard of, often use the sweets as a bribe to eat the sprouts.

A little later in life, say about the age of 6 onwards, punishment and rewards are now firmly set with food. If you’re a good girl you’ll get a cookie. If you’re a bad boy you get sent to bed without dinner.

Years of training go into this. These time honored methods work and work well. They train the child many things that are useful in later life. And in some cases enable that child to get to later life (imagine a baby that got to eat only whatever it wanted). The results are consistent: The child grows up healthy. But as an unwanted side effect: We like sweet and ‘bad for us’ food, we hate the peas, sprouts, and other ‘good for us’ foods. So with these side effects, is it any wonder some of us have eating problems and find dieting difficult?

You can overcome this conditioning. With attention, focus, and the right training, it’s easy to notice the past conditioning and re-condition yourself for better results.

P.S. Now, this is not an opportunity to blame your parents for your current situation. You have to remember, every single parent that ever lived, is an amateur. Even the most skilled parents, have raised only a few children. Your parents did the best they could at that time, and now it’s up to you to thank them for what they gave you, work with it, and learn and grow so you can raise your own children better.

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