Following on from this earlier post, there are many more words that have powerful effects on your feelings and your results when trying to lose weight, stick with a diet or exercise program, or just to feel good.

All of these words revolve around a tiny little three letter word that causes horrific hardship, anguish and pain. That little word is ‘not’.

So, like the last post, say these sentences out loud and discover for yourself how each of them make you feel

  1. I don’t wish to Lose the weight.
  2. I wouldn’t like to Lose the weight.
  3. I don’t want to Lose the weight.
  4. I needn’t to Lose the weight.
  5. I haven’t Lost the weight.
  6. I can’t Lose the weight.
  7. I mustn’t Lose the weight.
  8. I will not Lose the weight.
  9. I’m not going to Lose the weight.
  10. I shouldn’t Lose the weight.

(If you want, feel free to exchange the phrase ‘Lose the weight’ with the goal of your choice.)

How do each of them make you feel as you say them out loud? Compare that with last weeks post. What are you saying to yourself or others that cause this much negative emotion?

If you’re part of the program, you’ll know that words are very important. Today I’m going to get you to do an experiment to discover how important different words are for you.

It’s easy, it’ll take you maybe a minute and yet teach you a powerful lesson that can help you lose weight, be fit and healthy.

Say this sentence out loud: “Lose the weight.”

Notice how that makes you feel. If you’re like most people, it won’t have too much feeling.

Now, say that same sentence, but this time begin with each line below, one at a time, and notice how they change how you feel.

  1. I wish to Lose the weight.
  2. I would like to Lose the weight.
  3. I want to Lose the weight.
  4. I need to Lose the weight.
  5. I have to Lose the weight.
  6. I can Lose the weight.
  7. I must Lose the weight.
  8. I will Lose the weight.
  9. I am going to Lose the weight.
  10. I should Lose the weight.

How does each of the 10 sentences make you feel as you say them out loud? Were some more compelling? Did some make you angry, or sad? Did some seem more or less real?

Isn’t it powerfully interesting that a single word change can have such a huge effect to your emotional response?

Which are the phrases or words that you most use youself when describing what you desire to other people? Which do you most use when saying things to yourself?

I’m a big believer in what we do is who we are. That’s why I encourage you to watch this video.

The presenter, Anne Cooper, is talking about feeding school children in America. It will open your eyes to how adults treat food. And more importantly what this is teaching our kids about food.

Watch it, and think about what your own relationship with food is teaching the children and adults around you – even if you’re not a parent.

(It seems wordpress strips out the embedded video. You can find it here.)

Now think about your own upbringing; what did your parents teach you through their behaviour? Do you have to eat everything on your plate? Were you sent to bed without dinner? Was food always available? Were you scolded for eating outside regular meal times? Did you have to steal or hide food?

Have you ever had the experience of setting a goal, being committed and still not achieving it?

The goal might be to lose weight, get fit, shape your hips, change your thoughts, make more money, find a partner or anything else. The goals could be anything at all. If you’ve only just started the Butterfly Transformation Program you’ll already know how important setting goals are.

One of the best ways to reach your goals is to remove the procrastination, fear, emotional turmoil and apprehension associated with them. This most likely will be hidden fears, that you might not even know you have. The only way you can know that the fears are there, is when you set a goal and don’t reach it.

There are many things that can be done to clear out these old, unneeded fears. One really good way is by asking specific questions. The following 8 will help you uncover these fears:

  1. What do you want?
  2. How do you know you have it?
  3. What would you if it didn’t mean anything if you didn’t get it?
  4. What would you want if it didn’t mean anything about you?
  5. What would you want if you were guaranteed you would get it?
  6. What would you want if you knew you couldn’t fail?
  7. What would you want if it was ok to fail?
  8. What would you see, hear, feel to let you know that you got everything you wanted?

Sit down with a pen and paper and honestly answer these question. Sometimes, just identifying the hidden fears will allow you to overcome them. Other times you might need something a little more. I’ll talk on this more in the future…

Continuing on from my last post here are some tips to help you stop playing the Blame Game.

First, write down what is going on, not just superficially, but at a deeper level: write out the history, background, context and situation. Write out only facts and avoid making emotional statements. What stops you? What has power over you? If it helps, write everything in the third person as if you are watching the situation on TV.

Once you’ve written that all out, ask yourself what the situation described is trying to achieve. Note this down.

Finally, take specific notice of the relationships within the situation. What is going on between the players? Write these observations down as well.

Now that we’ve done the research, we can shift our attention to make the change and get better results. We do this essentially by asking two questions;

First, ask yourself what do you want instead? Write down this answer.

Second, ask what changes do you need to make to achieve this result? Write this down as well.

If you don’t know how to answer step two, The Butterfly Life Transformation Program will help you. It will also help you in many other aspects of your life.

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Playing the blame game.

March 11, 2008

Have you ever heard yourself make a statement like:

It’s not my fault I’m fat…
… I have big bones.
… It’s genetic.
… I’m addicted to food.
… I can’t stop eating.
… I’m out of control.
… I’ve tried everything and nothing works.
… I don’t have the time.
… I’m too stressed.
… I have to focus more on my job, my family, my whatever.
… I’ve got an injury.
… I have a chemical imbalance.
… I’ve got an emotional, psychological, physical disorder.
… I’m having an emotional time.
… My partner left me.
… My cat died.
… It’s a bad hair day.
–Insert your favorite excuse here–

Unfortunately, the more you blame someone or something the less ability to respond you have. And what they really means is as long as you keep blaming others (or even yourself) you’ll fail to lose weight.

You can lose the weight you want. You can have the body you desire. You just have to stop blaming others and take action now.

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Diet Hacks

January 4, 2008

As part of the Butterfly Transformation Program there is a list of over 30 lifehacks to get your diets right the first time…

Things like:

  • Tricks to beat the cravings
  • Planning and getting things done
  • How to relax
  • Tricks to keep motivated
  • How to recover from overpowering emotions
  • Get the desire to exercise
  • Hacks to beat past negative programming
  • Build new supportive habits
  • And much much more!

If you don’t know what a lifehack is, then the easist way to think about it is simple tips and tricks to improve the quality of your life. The lifehacks included in the program are all designed to help you lose the weight and gain the body you want!

Wouldn’t it be great to never have an arguement again? Wouldn’t it be great to never feel guilty? Wouldn’t it be fantastic to accept ourselves for who we are right now? Wouldn’t it be great to stay motivated? Although that future may seem unlikely, the following article may just help you achieve it.

There is one word that consistently causes confusion and anger. This word causes many arguements and if we can remove it from our speech, everyone will be happier!

This word causes frustration when we say it to someone else, anger when someone says it to us, and a whole bucket of mixed emotion when we say it to ourselves!
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The more I read news articles, magazines, watch TV or listen to the radio about weighloss, the more I realise that the changes people want to make are not external.

The real changes happen when you change your internal image of yourself. If you don’t change your internal image, you’ll yo-yo back and forth, struggling and fighting cravings each day. If you change your internal image (which is much faster and easier that changing anything else you have control over) your body will naturally follow.

Weight loss is not about your diet, exercise, food, eating, lifestyle, motivation, calories, or any of these ‘external’ factors. These help, but are not needed. Every gram of fat you lose, every fraction of an inch, every dress size is directed first and foremost by your internal image.

If you know the secrets on changing your internal image easily, you already have the body you want. If you don’t know how to make affirmations work, overcome fears, change old beliefs, modify unconscious behaviour, or change unwanted emotions, you need to join the free Butterfly Effect Transformation program now!

Happiness is a way of life

November 13, 2007

Below is a video of a presentation given by a Buddhist monk. He describes how to use your brain and emotions to live a happy and fulfilled life. We really can train our mind to develop the habit of happiness.

I really enjoyed his description of chocolate cake.

You can also find the direct link here.