Have you ever had the experience of setting a goal, being committed and still not achieving it?

The goal might be to lose weight, get fit, shape your hips, change your thoughts, make more money, find a partner or anything else. The goals could be anything at all. If you’ve only just started the Butterfly Transformation Program you’ll already know how important setting goals are.

One of the best ways to reach your goals is to remove the procrastination, fear, emotional turmoil and apprehension associated with them. This most likely will be hidden fears, that you might not even know you have. The only way you can know that the fears are there, is when you set a goal and don’t reach it.

There are many things that can be done to clear out these old, unneeded fears. One really good way is by asking specific questions. The following 8 will help you uncover these fears:

  1. What do you want?
  2. How do you know you have it?
  3. What would you if it didn’t mean anything if you didn’t get it?
  4. What would you want if it didn’t mean anything about you?
  5. What would you want if you were guaranteed you would get it?
  6. What would you want if you knew you couldn’t fail?
  7. What would you want if it was ok to fail?
  8. What would you see, hear, feel to let you know that you got everything you wanted?

Sit down with a pen and paper and honestly answer these question. Sometimes, just identifying the hidden fears will allow you to overcome them. Other times you might need something a little more. I’ll talk on this more in the future…

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Since starting Butterfly Transformation officially over a year ago, I’ve been shocked about what other diet, exercise and weight loss programs offer. Some of the things I found deeply saddened me.

Unfortunately, I’m bound to get some abusive comments for writing this. I might even turn off some readers who were just about to sign up.

The thing is, right now Butterfly Transformation is not making enough to cover server costs. So it can’t cost me much more than it already is. Thankfully, I didn’t put together this program to become rich. I did it to help people trapped by their own beliefs. I did it to help people gain back their freedom and enjoyment of life. While I’m disappointed that some people might not join a program they can benefit from because I’m exposing some truth, they are probably not the people I want as part of the program anyway…

Over the past year my eyes have been opened, my ears unclogged to one subtle, but powerful and common belief that permeates many of the programs. That one belief sets almost everyone enrolled in these programs up to fail.

You see the belief in the marketing:

  • “Lose 25 pounds in three weeks…”
  • “Lose weight instantly…”
  • “Achieve your weight loss goals in three easy steps…”

You hear the belief in their programs:

  • “New winter menu…”
  • “The treatment is painless, drug free, with no side effects…”
  • “takes away your appetite…”

That belief is that if you take this pill, drink this juice, follow this diet, do this exercise, buy this machine, then your weight will suddenly disappear. That belief is if you do nothing but use this program, you’ll reach your goal. That belief is if you remain passive, you can achieve your goals.

This is a pile of rancid horse droppings!

You know from your own experience this belief has infected most of the programs out there. I’m sure you’ve even been let down by a product that gave you similar promises.

You also know how wrong it is, and yet it’s difficult to resist because it’s never stated directly. It’s difficult to resists because it appeals to our laziness.

But most damaging of all, it allows us to shift responsibility of our failures from yourselves, to the program; “I didn’t get my goal, it’s the diet (or program, or pill, or machine) not me…” which means we’re right back where we started, yet more upset, disappointed and frustrated.

So to help everyone be able to identify this vile and cancerous belief, take more control of their lives, and make informed choices, I’ve put together a few questions to ask.

Ask these questions seriously from every product or service (including mine). Doing so will likely save you time, effort and much frustration.

  1. Does the program or product show me the goal and do they hold my hand every step of the way?
  2. Does the program or product show me where I am now and most importantly HOW to get to where I want to be?
  3. Does the program or product set a good and realistic expectations and timeframes?
  4. Does the program or product set out at the start what’s possible and how to get there?
  5. Does the program or product help me build internal motivation about the changes I want in my life?
  6. Does the program or product participate in the process of my changes and adapt to me, rather than a one size fits all?
  7. Is the program or product after lasting results, not temporary fixes or short term success?
  8. Does the program or product offer me insights into my own life, and through those insights help me make the needed changes to my body, mind and behaviour?

Do you find yourself flipping from one diet to the next, hoping this one will be the one?
Do you are on a diet, and get close to, or even achieve your goal weight, only to fall back?

Then you might be on the Yo-yo diet. One of the most disheartening things you can experience when trying to lose weight. It feels like you are taking one step forward, two steps back.

Luckily, there are specific things that you can do to stop your Yo-yo diet.

Set your goals properly.
Focus on what you want.
Keep checking your goals to make sure you’re staying on track.
Be able to stop cravings.
Remove the other limits to your health.
Learn the habits to nurture.
Discover the habits to remove or change.
Be grateful for who you are right now.
Discover the small, scared, young child inside you and help them grow into the person you most want to be.
Encourage the actions you most want.
Wonder how the changes you make now, will improve the lives of the people around you.
… And much more.

Continuing on from my last post here are some tips to help you stop playing the Blame Game.

First, write down what is going on, not just superficially, but at a deeper level: write out the history, background, context and situation. Write out only facts and avoid making emotional statements. What stops you? What has power over you? If it helps, write everything in the third person as if you are watching the situation on TV.

Once you’ve written that all out, ask yourself what the situation described is trying to achieve. Note this down.

Finally, take specific notice of the relationships within the situation. What is going on between the players? Write these observations down as well.

Now that we’ve done the research, we can shift our attention to make the change and get better results. We do this essentially by asking two questions;

First, ask yourself what do you want instead? Write down this answer.

Second, ask what changes do you need to make to achieve this result? Write this down as well.

If you don’t know how to answer step two, The Butterfly Life Transformation Program will help you. It will also help you in many other aspects of your life.

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Do you have alot of can’t?

February 13, 2008

If you say “I can’t”, you have set that thing in stone. Chances are, once you say you can’t do something, you’ll never ever even attempt it again.

I advise you to not say to me you can’t do something. If you do I’ll find out how you know you can’t. Some of the questions I ask may make you feel uncomfortable (readers on the program know how that sentence is false) – mainly because I know there are very, very few things that you can’t do.

If you ever hear yourself say “I can’t”, immediately ask yourself: What can you do?

A few other ways to achieve the same result. Instead of saying “I can’t something-something” say
In the past I wasn’t able to something-something”.

Or

You can also say “I can’t something-something yet

This helps you to change, rather than staying stuck. These ‘cants’ are indicators and signposts for you to where you can learn.

Now, by saying ‘can’t’ you may mean you lack the skills. This is because you’re not yet aware of the difference between can’t and don’t know. Can you climb mount everest? Unless you have got the correct training, focused, dedicated yourself, tried and failed – it’s not a can’t, it’s a don’t know.

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Too many times I communicate with people who have a goal, yet have no idea what will happen after they reach it.

Sure, you may lose that last 5 kilos. You might win the lotto. You might get the promotion.

We’ve focused our attention on that one goal for so long, we sometimes forget what we want to do afterwards. What usually happens in that case is we reach our goal, but then we quickly fall back into old patterns and put that weight straight back on.

Make sure you achieve and keep your goals. Imagine you have your goal, how will you feel? What will you see and hear? How will it effect the people around you? Once you have this goal, now, what do you want that’s even more important?

This will keep you on the right track. Improving your life and health daily through your own intention and focus!

Write down your goals!

January 28, 2008

Research conducted at Harvard into graduates 20 years after they had graduated showed the
following:

5% were earning more money than the other 95% combined.

The only differentiator was that the 5% had written down their objectives. There is something
about writing down our goals and objectives that confirms our commitment to them, and keeps them in sight
and in mind.

Writing down your goals, and using special unique methods to keep them in mind and in sight is a major part of the Butterfly Life Transformation program. Start to learn powerful methods to achieve your weight loss goals – Sign up today.

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It’s now over 2 weeks into 2008. My guess is most of the people that gave themselves a new year resolution to lose weight have already broken their promise.

Those people might have said, I’ll eat more vegetables, drink more water, exercise more. And while focusing on food, exercise and water are good, it’s our self image that defines how we eat, drink and live.

If we don’t make a change to our self image, we might make some initial small change, but quickly revert back when we’re not looking. If we make a change to our self image, we can naturally transform into the body we want.

Don’t get thin for events – a new year, a wedding, a party.
Don’t get thin for someone else – a lover, family or a friend.

Get thin for LIFE!