No pill, no diet, no exercise, no surgery, no nothing can make you thin.

There is only one single thing that can cause the changes you want. That one thing is you.

First: Make the committed decision to achieve the goals
Second: Act on what you know right now.
Third: Discover what skills, abilities or knowledge that you lack and find out how to get them.

You are the one in control, always. Even if you think you’re not. That might be hard for some readers to accept. If you are one of those readers that think your weight is out of your control, then you either need to accept you’ll stay the weight you are now (or worse) or join Butterfly Transformation Program.

The last step of the exercise designed to teach you how a single word change can powerfully change your response to you keeping your diet or exercise program. Find Step 1step 2, and step 3.

Take the list from the last step (repeated below) and read them one line as a time as if your mother, your partner, your boss, your best friend, your children or someone else important in your life were saying them to you.

Notice how they make you feel as each one is said.

  1. You wish to Lose the weight.
  2. You would like to Lose the weight.
  3. You want to Lose the weight.
  4. You need to Lose the weight.
  5. You have to Lose the weight.
  6. You can Lose the weight.
  7. You must Lose the weight.
  8. You will Lose the weight.
  9. You am going to Lose the weight.
  10. You should Lose the weight.
  11. You don’t wish to Lose the weight.
  12. You wouldn’t like to Lose the weight.
  13. You don’t want to Lose the weight.
  14. You needn’t to Lose the weight.
  15. You haven’t Lost the weight.
  16. You can’t Lose the weight.
  17. You mustn’t Lose the weight.
  18. You will not Lose the weight.
  19. You’re not going to Lose the weight.
  20. You shouldn’t Lose the weight.

Do you hear these from those around you often? Do any of them make you angry, sad, depressed?

You might notice that some of these have no effect when you say them to yourself, but cause a massive emotional change when you imagine someone else saying them to you!

This time, not changing the words, but changing who says them can cause all kinds of changes!

Join the program if you want to learn how to change your responses!

One more step in the exercise that started here and continued here.

This time, read out the below list (a modified copy made from the last two) while you look at yourself in the mirror and say these sentences as if you were saying them to someone else.

  1. You wish to Lose the weight.
  2. You would like to Lose the weight.
  3. You want to Lose the weight.
  4. You need to Lose the weight.
  5. You have to Lose the weight.
  6. You can Lose the weight.
  7. You must Lose the weight.
  8. You will Lose the weight.
  9. You am going to Lose the weight.
  10. You should Lose the weight.
  11. You don’t wish to Lose the weight.
  12. You wouldn’t like to Lose the weight.
  13. You don’t want to Lose the weight.
  14. You needn’t to Lose the weight.
  15. You haven’t Lost the weight.
  16. You can’t Lose the weight.
  17. You mustn’t Lose the weight.
  18. You will not Lose the weight.
  19. You’re not going to Lose the weight.
  20. You shouldn’t Lose the weight.

Notice how saying them to someone else makes you feel. Were there any that were difficult to say? Were there any you say often, or hear often?

Following on from this earlier post, there are many more words that have powerful effects on your feelings and your results when trying to lose weight, stick with a diet or exercise program, or just to feel good.

All of these words revolve around a tiny little three letter word that causes horrific hardship, anguish and pain. That little word is ‘not’.

So, like the last post, say these sentences out loud and discover for yourself how each of them make you feel

  1. I don’t wish to Lose the weight.
  2. I wouldn’t like to Lose the weight.
  3. I don’t want to Lose the weight.
  4. I needn’t to Lose the weight.
  5. I haven’t Lost the weight.
  6. I can’t Lose the weight.
  7. I mustn’t Lose the weight.
  8. I will not Lose the weight.
  9. I’m not going to Lose the weight.
  10. I shouldn’t Lose the weight.

(If you want, feel free to exchange the phrase ‘Lose the weight’ with the goal of your choice.)

How do each of them make you feel as you say them out loud? Compare that with last weeks post. What are you saying to yourself or others that cause this much negative emotion?

Have you ever had the experience of setting a goal, being committed and still not achieving it?

The goal might be to lose weight, get fit, shape your hips, change your thoughts, make more money, find a partner or anything else. The goals could be anything at all. If you’ve only just started the Butterfly Transformation Program you’ll already know how important setting goals are.

One of the best ways to reach your goals is to remove the procrastination, fear, emotional turmoil and apprehension associated with them. This most likely will be hidden fears, that you might not even know you have. The only way you can know that the fears are there, is when you set a goal and don’t reach it.

There are many things that can be done to clear out these old, unneeded fears. One really good way is by asking specific questions. The following 8 will help you uncover these fears:

  1. What do you want?
  2. How do you know you have it?
  3. What would you if it didn’t mean anything if you didn’t get it?
  4. What would you want if it didn’t mean anything about you?
  5. What would you want if you were guaranteed you would get it?
  6. What would you want if you knew you couldn’t fail?
  7. What would you want if it was ok to fail?
  8. What would you see, hear, feel to let you know that you got everything you wanted?

Sit down with a pen and paper and honestly answer these question. Sometimes, just identifying the hidden fears will allow you to overcome them. Other times you might need something a little more. I’ll talk on this more in the future…

Since starting Butterfly Transformation officially over a year ago, I’ve been shocked about what other diet, exercise and weight loss programs offer. Some of the things I found deeply saddened me.

Unfortunately, I’m bound to get some abusive comments for writing this. I might even turn off some readers who were just about to sign up.

The thing is, right now Butterfly Transformation is not making enough to cover server costs. So it can’t cost me much more than it already is. Thankfully, I didn’t put together this program to become rich. I did it to help people trapped by their own beliefs. I did it to help people gain back their freedom and enjoyment of life. While I’m disappointed that some people might not join a program they can benefit from because I’m exposing some truth, they are probably not the people I want as part of the program anyway…

Over the past year my eyes have been opened, my ears unclogged to one subtle, but powerful and common belief that permeates many of the programs. That one belief sets almost everyone enrolled in these programs up to fail.

You see the belief in the marketing:

  • “Lose 25 pounds in three weeks…”
  • “Lose weight instantly…”
  • “Achieve your weight loss goals in three easy steps…”

You hear the belief in their programs:

  • “New winter menu…”
  • “The treatment is painless, drug free, with no side effects…”
  • “takes away your appetite…”

That belief is that if you take this pill, drink this juice, follow this diet, do this exercise, buy this machine, then your weight will suddenly disappear. That belief is if you do nothing but use this program, you’ll reach your goal. That belief is if you remain passive, you can achieve your goals.

This is a pile of rancid horse droppings!

You know from your own experience this belief has infected most of the programs out there. I’m sure you’ve even been let down by a product that gave you similar promises.

You also know how wrong it is, and yet it’s difficult to resist because it’s never stated directly. It’s difficult to resists because it appeals to our laziness.

But most damaging of all, it allows us to shift responsibility of our failures from yourselves, to the program; “I didn’t get my goal, it’s the diet (or program, or pill, or machine) not me…” which means we’re right back where we started, yet more upset, disappointed and frustrated.

So to help everyone be able to identify this vile and cancerous belief, take more control of their lives, and make informed choices, I’ve put together a few questions to ask.

Ask these questions seriously from every product or service (including mine). Doing so will likely save you time, effort and much frustration.

  1. Does the program or product show me the goal and do they hold my hand every step of the way?
  2. Does the program or product show me where I am now and most importantly HOW to get to where I want to be?
  3. Does the program or product set a good and realistic expectations and timeframes?
  4. Does the program or product set out at the start what’s possible and how to get there?
  5. Does the program or product help me build internal motivation about the changes I want in my life?
  6. Does the program or product participate in the process of my changes and adapt to me, rather than a one size fits all?
  7. Is the program or product after lasting results, not temporary fixes or short term success?
  8. Does the program or product offer me insights into my own life, and through those insights help me make the needed changes to my body, mind and behaviour?

If you’ve been part of the Butterfly Transformation Program you won’t need this service. For the rest of you, if you need constant nagging to get motivated, you might want to check it out.

http://www.weightnags.com

It’s funny, nagging is one of the worst methods of motivation. It didn’t work on us when our parents used it; “go clean your room”. Doesn’t work too well when we use it on ourselves; “stop thinking about that cake”. Doesn’t work on our boss; “can I have a raise yet?”

Still, their heart is in the right place.

Do you find yourself flipping from one diet to the next, hoping this one will be the one?
Do you are on a diet, and get close to, or even achieve your goal weight, only to fall back?

Then you might be on the Yo-yo diet. One of the most disheartening things you can experience when trying to lose weight. It feels like you are taking one step forward, two steps back.

Luckily, there are specific things that you can do to stop your Yo-yo diet.

Set your goals properly.
Focus on what you want.
Keep checking your goals to make sure you’re staying on track.
Be able to stop cravings.
Remove the other limits to your health.
Learn the habits to nurture.
Discover the habits to remove or change.
Be grateful for who you are right now.
Discover the small, scared, young child inside you and help them grow into the person you most want to be.
Encourage the actions you most want.
Wonder how the changes you make now, will improve the lives of the people around you.
… And much more.

If you’re using the Butterfly Life Transformation program you’ll know how much faith I put on using willpower to achieve any habit change. In short – not much.

However there is some interesting research that shows, just like building a muscle, the more you use your willpower, the more it works. Although it does require our focused attention and constant vigilance to make it happen. There are better ways

You can read more of the research here.

Continuing on from my last post here are some tips to help you stop playing the Blame Game.

First, write down what is going on, not just superficially, but at a deeper level: write out the history, background, context and situation. Write out only facts and avoid making emotional statements. What stops you? What has power over you? If it helps, write everything in the third person as if you are watching the situation on TV.

Once you’ve written that all out, ask yourself what the situation described is trying to achieve. Note this down.

Finally, take specific notice of the relationships within the situation. What is going on between the players? Write these observations down as well.

Now that we’ve done the research, we can shift our attention to make the change and get better results. We do this essentially by asking two questions;

First, ask yourself what do you want instead? Write down this answer.

Second, ask what changes do you need to make to achieve this result? Write this down as well.

If you don’t know how to answer step two, The Butterfly Life Transformation Program will help you. It will also help you in many other aspects of your life.

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