Do you have one or do you want one, but don’t think you’ll be able to keep it?

Do you have a target? How much weight do you want to lose, or do you just want to change your body shape?

What timeframe have you set to make those changes?

Those things, on December 31st, are critically important to know. But making those choices are the easy part. The real challenge comes from every day when you are faced with the choices within your life and you choose the option that follows the path to achieve this goal.

This is why so many people fail at keeping their New Years resolutions. They make the resolution easily, but doing what’s required is too hard.

Don’t be one of the people that are unable to stay with their goals alone. Join us in the Butterfly Transformation 30 day Program. We can help you choose, start and stick with your goals!

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The reason we fail

December 24, 2009

The new year is almost on us. With the coming new year comes the inevitable new years resolution. Will this years be the same as last years?

So are we set up and are dedicated to losing weight in 2010, just like we did in 2009, and 2008, and maybe even 2007. How come we failed? What are the chances of failing again this year? Maybe you won’t even bother this time because you expect to fail. What a shame that is.

If we find our goals difficult, be they new years resolutions or just a daily goal to get some exercise it’s because we under estimate the time it will take to achieve and over estimate the ease of achieving it. Think back to the goals you didn’t achieve and I’m sure you’ll discover this.

The only reason you can fail a goal, is to set a timeframe. Isn’t having the body you want worth spending the rest of your life for? You have to spend it in your body, what better way than in a body you enjoy being in? Imagine how good it will feel when you can look at yourself naked in the mirror and smile? Or how good it might feel when someone else looks at you in just that way when you’re dressed up for a party?

As the Butterfly Transformation Program describes, setting goals doesn’t have to be difficult. To set a realistic goal, and sticking to it, only takes effort to do one step or one day at a time.

The purpose of exercise

December 17, 2009

There are many little bits of knowledge I teach to those that will listen. One that comes up again and again is the purpose of exercise.

The purpose of exercise is not to burn calories. Life is not meant to be an endless struggle to expel the more calories than you take in.

The purpose of exercise is to enjoy moving your body.

Suddenly, the idea of exercise stops being about the joyless fight against calories and becomes actual fun. Something you want to do, not something you should do. (In the Program, I talk a lot about things that we ‘should’ do, and how destructive they are to your goals)

As you move your body, your body naturally adjusts to help move your body in that way. If you ride a bike, your body shapes itself to help you ride a bike. In addition, the more active you are, the more active you want to be.

Exercise is a side effect of being alive and healthy, not something that’s tacked on when you’re in the mood and have the time. It’s something that you want to do, and feel lacking when you skip it.

The question then becomes; what’s stopping you from being active?

In a post some time ago, I talked about the difference between setting goals and achieving them.

There is a bunch of research that shows that everyone, when setting a goal, underestimate what they can achieve in 5 years and over estimate what they can achieve in 1 year.

What does this mean for you?

It means set your goals, but realise you might fail on your short term goals, but achieve your long term goals sooner than you expect. Remember this next time you set a goal to lose weight in a few months and don’t reach your goal. Relax and acknowledge your failure, but keep moving towards your goals.

As I discuss in my program, you will fail in your goal sometime. You will cheat on the diet, skip an exercise day, eat that extra piece of cake. Knowing this in advance allows you to plan for it, and not throw out your entire goal just because you’re human.

Even more on exercise

November 26, 2009

After this last post, I got a few emails. One in particular stood out.

I won’t post it here, but the basic idea behind it was that doing these small things makes no difference to weight loss.

First off, there’s a bunch of research that suggests that doing a lot of exercise, sweating buckets and exhausting yourself doesn’t make much of a dent in your weight, but that’s a different thing.

Yes, doing 20 leg lifts while sitting at your desk when compared to a 30 minute workout means there is very little calories burned. Can’t argue with that. I can however argue with the reasons for these simple things throughout the day.

I’m in no way suggesting you’re doing these simple and easy things through your day to burn calories. That’s not the intent at all. First of all, the intent is to keep your body active and moving. To keep in your mind your goal. As I discuss in The Program keeping your goal in mind at all times helps you achieve it.

Secondly, doing many simple and easy things throughout your day can add up to burning more calories than a 30 minute gym session. Do you think, if you’re on your feet the whole day you need a 30 minute workout? Maybe for some toning and shaping, but unlikely for overall fitness.

If you happen to sit at a desk for 8 hours, or on a couch for 12, even doing a little extra movements helps. EVERY little bit helps.

Finally, doing these small things also helps with your motivation. For a 30 minute gym session, you need to find the time, get changed, and travel to the gym. This can be hard sometimes. Yet standing on one leg while you’re waiting in line is instantly available. You can just do it, no planning required. This means you can feel good because you did something rather than the usual ‘I’ll do it tomorrow’.

The present day human adult is the only being in creation that takes time out of their day to head to the gym and workout. Babies, children, and animals never do exercise just for the sake of exercise. They move and play as a normal part of their day.

So, guess who is healthier: modern adults who try to work out every day, or pre-technological people who only moved their bodies for work or fun?

Your body is built to move. In fact, you can’t be still. Your heart beats, your chest rises and falls as your breathe. So I encourage everyone to fully embrace the joy of movement. Moving should be a pleasure, not something to be avoided because it’s ‘too hard’.

So next time you think of doing some exercise, just do _something_. In fact, do something easy right now. Stand while you read the next blog post, lift your legs off the ground a few times, take a walk around the house. Go on!

Setting goals are easy…

September 17, 2009

… it’s the follow through that’s difficult.

I know some of the readers here don’t set goals – and the only reason you don’t is that you don’t want to fail. I understand this. I know how difficult, hard, destabalising, unbalancing and depressing not achieving a goal is. So to save us that pain, we don’t set them.

That doesn’t make it ok to not get what we want, it just makes it less painful.

There are many books, many programs, many recordings out there to help you set goals. I also spend quite a bit of time in my Butterfly Transformation Program on goal setting, including the main keys to ensure you overcome the difficult parts – like getting up early, exercising and making the correct food choices – easily.

One of the keys to make sure you reach your goals is to understand that the only way you can fail is to stop. You may not reach the target in the timeframe you set and there may or may not be some good reasons. Either way the only way you’ll fail is if you then stop.

Think about this next time you get frustrated because you didn’t achieve your goal.

As humans, we are really bad as estimating how we’ll feel emotionally after we do something.

Most people expect that when they win the lottery, their life will be much better. They’ll be much happier, enjoy life more, have better friends, live in a nicer house, drive a better car…

And yet, most people that win the lottery end up spending all their winnings inside 5 years. They end up being in more debt, and having less friends and more problems. I’m sure you think you’re different.

The thing is, you’re thinking that you’ll be different is the exact same thinking that will ensure you’ll spend it all!

But I know you don’t believe me. So rather than just writing my writings off as fantasy, do you believe I’m wrong enough to prove to me that I’m wrong?

Here’s a simple test that will prove me wrong (or right) if you do it. For the next few days, write down on a scale of 1 to 10 how you’ll feel after your next meal before you eat it. 1 being the worst ever, 10 being the best ever. Then when you’ve finished the meal write down the number that it actually was using the same scale.

I dare you, prove me wrong.

P.S. Apologies to anyone who’s gone through the Butterfly Transformation Program. They know that me being right or wrong is about as useful as you being right or wrong. To give those who’ve not done the program a hint, that usefulness is almost zero.

One size fits all!

August 1, 2009

Have a look at the diet books, visit a gym, or just scan your local ads. You’ll notice that every single one of them offers a ‘one size fits all’ solution to your problem.

From the diet books, it’s a straight X number of calories per day by making these fantastic, tasty and healthy meals.

From the gym it’s an specific exercise regime that’ll get you fit and thin.

From any of the other ads, it’s not so much about you and your problems, but how their solution can fix your problems.

No one knows you better than yourself. Only you can know the best way to achieve the goals you want. You can get help from the diet books, gym and others, but only if you really know what you want. This relates to my last post and you being the only one that can make the change.

Of course, this now begs the question: How do I know what I want?

It’s a tough question to answer without knowing you, but there is a large portion of the Butterfly Transformation Program that focuses on helping you build, understand and discover the goals that are best for you.

P.S. Apologies for the pun in the title.

Have you ever had the experience of setting a goal, being committed and still not achieving it?

The goal might be to lose weight, get fit, shape your hips, change your thoughts, make more money, find a partner or anything else. The goals could be anything at all. If you’ve only just started the Butterfly Transformation Program you’ll already know how important setting goals are.

One of the best ways to reach your goals is to remove the procrastination, fear, emotional turmoil and apprehension associated with them. This most likely will be hidden fears, that you might not even know you have. The only way you can know that the fears are there, is when you set a goal and don’t reach it.

There are many things that can be done to clear out these old, unneeded fears. One really good way is by asking specific questions. The following 8 will help you uncover these fears:

  1. What do you want?
  2. How do you know you have it?
  3. What would you if it didn’t mean anything if you didn’t get it?
  4. What would you want if it didn’t mean anything about you?
  5. What would you want if you were guaranteed you would get it?
  6. What would you want if you knew you couldn’t fail?
  7. What would you want if it was ok to fail?
  8. What would you see, hear, feel to let you know that you got everything you wanted?

Sit down with a pen and paper and honestly answer these question. Sometimes, just identifying the hidden fears will allow you to overcome them. Other times you might need something a little more. I’ll talk on this more in the future…

Since starting Butterfly Transformation officially over a year ago, I’ve been shocked about what other diet, exercise and weight loss programs offer. Some of the things I found deeply saddened me.

Unfortunately, I’m bound to get some abusive comments for writing this. I might even turn off some readers who were just about to sign up.

The thing is, right now Butterfly Transformation is not making enough to cover server costs. So it can’t cost me much more than it already is. Thankfully, I didn’t put together this program to become rich. I did it to help people trapped by their own beliefs. I did it to help people gain back their freedom and enjoyment of life. While I’m disappointed that some people might not join a program they can benefit from because I’m exposing some truth, they are probably not the people I want as part of the program anyway…

Over the past year my eyes have been opened, my ears unclogged to one subtle, but powerful and common belief that permeates many of the programs. That one belief sets almost everyone enrolled in these programs up to fail.

You see the belief in the marketing:

  • “Lose 25 pounds in three weeks…”
  • “Lose weight instantly…”
  • “Achieve your weight loss goals in three easy steps…”

You hear the belief in their programs:

  • “New winter menu…”
  • “The treatment is painless, drug free, with no side effects…”
  • “takes away your appetite…”

That belief is that if you take this pill, drink this juice, follow this diet, do this exercise, buy this machine, then your weight will suddenly disappear. That belief is if you do nothing but use this program, you’ll reach your goal. That belief is if you remain passive, you can achieve your goals.

This is a pile of rancid horse droppings!

You know from your own experience this belief has infected most of the programs out there. I’m sure you’ve even been let down by a product that gave you similar promises.

You also know how wrong it is, and yet it’s difficult to resist because it’s never stated directly. It’s difficult to resists because it appeals to our laziness.

But most damaging of all, it allows us to shift responsibility of our failures from yourselves, to the program; “I didn’t get my goal, it’s the diet (or program, or pill, or machine) not me…” which means we’re right back where we started, yet more upset, disappointed and frustrated.

So to help everyone be able to identify this vile and cancerous belief, take more control of their lives, and make informed choices, I’ve put together a few questions to ask.

Ask these questions seriously from every product or service (including mine). Doing so will likely save you time, effort and much frustration.

  1. Does the program or product show me the goal and do they hold my hand every step of the way?
  2. Does the program or product show me where I am now and most importantly HOW to get to where I want to be?
  3. Does the program or product set a good and realistic expectations and timeframes?
  4. Does the program or product set out at the start what’s possible and how to get there?
  5. Does the program or product help me build internal motivation about the changes I want in my life?
  6. Does the program or product participate in the process of my changes and adapt to me, rather than a one size fits all?
  7. Is the program or product after lasting results, not temporary fixes or short term success?
  8. Does the program or product offer me insights into my own life, and through those insights help me make the needed changes to my body, mind and behaviour?